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Divorce stress: How to handle a contentious divorce

There is no question about the emotional distress a divorce can cause. You're losing someone whom you believed you would be with for many years, if not a lifetime. Unfortunately, the reality is that the situation calls for you to separate.

Knowing that your marriage can't be saved is devastating enough, but sometimes, people's personalities become hard to handle in a divorce. They become headstrong and demanding. Some become overly sensitive. What can you do to reduce the stress of a divorce and try to get it over with quickly? Here are a few tips.

1. Treat your divorce as a business arrangement

Before you start looking into dividing assets or setting up child support arrangements, you have to make sure you take a business approach to your divorce. The emotions involved may make you want to fight for smaller assets or things with sentimental value, but it's in your best interests to think about the bigger picture. Do what you believe is in your best interests financially and make healthy decisions about your child's care, if you have one.

2. Take time away

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to take time away to settle down. Emotions always run high during divorces, especially when they're contentious. Your best bet at staying sane is separating yourself from the situation and focusing on other things until you feel that you have a clear head again.

3. Separate yourself from your old social circle

While it can be a good thing to be able to rely on shared friends and family members, it's not always what's best during a divorce. If you're struggling because you're hearing things about your ex-partner or are finding out opinions you don't want to know about, it's probably time to cut ties. Changing your circle from shared friends to those who support you alone can help you feel more secure and supported while you go through this rough time.

Divorces take time, and there are going to be days where you don't want to deal with yours. Remember that, regardless of what is done today or tomorrow, the future will result in a divorce and a point where you can move on without this stress on your shoulders. Try to stay calm and collected, and do what you can to negotiate, so you can get the divorce over with as soon as possible.

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